What is Wisdom?

Wisdom is the ability to make sound judgments based on knowledge, experience, and self-awareness. It’s not simply about intelligence or knowing facts—it’s about seeing the bigger picture, learning from mistakes, and making decisions that lead to growth and positive change. According to ​research​ by Dong and Fournier, “Wisdom entails being flexible in one’s thinking, the tendency and willingness to take on different ideas and perspectives, and an orientation toward exploration, psychological growth, and personal fulfillment.”

Now, let’s explore how the principle of Connection can help us gain the wisdom to change, starting with how we connect with ourselves, others, and God.

Apply it: 1. Connection to Self

The first and most crucial step in gaining the wisdom to change is developing a deeper connection with yourself. Self-awareness is the foundation of wisdom because it helps you understand your own thoughts, emotions, and motivations. When you’re disconnected from yourself, you’re more likely to act out of habit or emotion rather than wisdom.

Ask Yourself: “What am I avoiding?”

This is a tough but essential question. Often, the things we avoid—difficult conversations, uncomfortable truths, or unresolved pain—are the very things that hold us back from meaningful change. To gain the wisdom to change, you must first face the reality of what you’ve been avoiding. Start by journaling or meditating on this question, allowing yourself to confront the discomfort so you can move forward.

 

2. Connection to Others

We gain wisdom not only from introspection but also from the people around us. Whether through feedback, advice, or simply observing others’ experiences, our Connections with others are a vital source of learning. However, it requires humility and openness to listen to and learn from others.

Ask Others: “What do you see that I don’t?”

We all have blind spots, and sometimes, the people closest to us can see patterns or behaviors we’re too close to recognize. Asking someone you trust for honest feedback can help uncover truths about yourself, leading to greater wisdom and growth. Be ready to listen without defensiveness—this is where true wisdom starts.

 

3. Connection to Spirit

Finally, wisdom often comes from something beyond ourselves. For many, this source of wisdom is a Connection to God or a higher power. Spirituality offers a broader perspective, reminding us that we are part of something greater and that our challenges are opportunities for growth and transformation.

Ask God: “What is the lesson in this?”

When faced with difficulties or life challenges, spiritual guidance can help you find the deeper meaning in your experiences. Through prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection, ask for the wisdom to understand what life is teaching you in this moment. Trust that there is always a purpose behind every experience, and the wisdom to change comes from embracing that lesson.