ROCK thru to more self-worth in a ‘not enough’ world
ABUNDANT LIVING SERIES
by Lee Havenga | September 12, 2024
Every morning, I make a matcha latte. It’s a mindful ritual—watching the almond milk simmer, sifting the green powder through a fine mesh, whisking to create the perfect bubbly foam. This has been my morning routine for years, but recently, I added a small twist: a creamy heart in the froth. This intentional act is my personal reminder that I am loved and valuable, reinforcing my sense of worth no matter what happens throughout the day.
In a world constantly telling us we’re not enough, it’s easy to feel like our self-worth is always up for debate. Whether it’s social media influencers or advertisements, there’s a persistent message that we need to be better, richer, or more productive to truly matter. In this post from the Abundant Living Series, I’ll share how you can apply the four ROCK thru principles to intentionally encouragement yourself, so you can feel confident that you are enough, just as you are.
“Look into a mirror, make eye contact with yourself,
and say ‘I love me’ as many times as possible during the
day.”
― Wayne Dyer
RESPECT
Know Your Self-Worth
Respect starts with recognizing your inherent self-worth. You are valuable, not because of your achievements or the number of mistakes you avoid, but simply because you exist. Understanding this is crucial, especially when external pressures make you question your value.
Apply it
Begin each morning with a reminder of your self-worth. Write a positive affirmation like “I am valuable just as I am” on a sticky note and place it on your bathroom mirror. Seeing this daily will reinforce your sense of worth and help you internalize your true value over time.
OWNERSHIP
Take Charge of Your Self-Worth
Ownership is not just about what you do in life, but also about how you talk to yourself. Your inner critic can sometimes drown out your sense of self-worth, magnifying every mistake and flaw. The key to building self-worth is being aware of this inner voice and learning to shift from criticism to self-compassion.
Apply it
To strengthen your self-worth, try habit stacking—a technique from James Clear’s Atomic Habits. Pair a new habit of positive self-talk with something you already do. For example, while brushing your teeth before bed, take a moment to reflect on one thing you’re proud of from the day. This practice will help solidify your self-worth by focusing on your strengths rather than dwelling on imperfections
CONNECTION
Cultivate a Deep Sense of Self-Worth
Connection with yourself means learning to embrace who you are, flaws and all, without judgment. Often, we are much harsher on ourselves than we are on others, which can chip away at our self-worth. Building a strong connection with yourself requires that you approach your own imperfections with the same compassion and grace you would offer a friend.
Apply it
Throughout the day, check in with how you’re treating yourself. If your inner critic starts to take over, ask, “Would I talk to a friend this way?” Reframe your thoughts with kindness, and focus on maintaining a healthy, compassionate dialogue that nurtures your self-worth. Over time, treating yourself with more compassion will strengthen your connection to your true worth.
KINDNESS
Practice Acts of Self-Worth
Kindness toward yourself is the foundation for growing your self-worth. Too often, we ignore our own needs, pushing through stress without a second thought. But recognizing when you need to step back, breathe, or take care of yourself is essential to feeling worthy. Acts of kindness are a way to show yourself that you deserve care and attention.
Apply it
Next time you feel overwhelmed or start doubting your value, pause and ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment?” It could be a break, a quiet moment, or simply a reminder that you are doing your best. By practicing this daily, you’ll naturally begin to prioritize your well-being and reinforce your self-worth. Small, intentional acts of kindness toward yourself can make a big difference in how you perceive your own worth.
It’s time to turn down the volume on your inner critic and turn up the voice that reminds you of your awesomeness. You are enough, just as you are. Embrace each day with confidence, owning your story, nurturing your unique gifts, and shining brightly, because your self-worth is not determined by external circumstances.
ROCK thru every day with a strong sense of self-worth, knowing you are enough.
XO ~ Lee
Source:
Clear, James. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones. Avery, 2018.
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