ROCK thru when life feels like a climb | self-Respect
by Lee Havenga | April 13, 2023
Relationship challenges. Stressful work situations. Stuck in a rut. Emotional exhaustion. Sometimes life feels like a long, slow, uphill climb. In a workshop series on using ROCK thru principles to ease the struggle during difficult times, Respect for yourself is ALWAYS where to start. Here are a few excerpts from the session on self-Respect:
RESPECT
When you live your life authentically,
challenges don’t feel so challenging.
Apply it
1. Discover who you really are
The small, neglected voice inside you is dying to be heard. Acknowledge it by asking it:
What do you genuinely love to do?
What ignites a spark in your soul?
What’s fun?
Rediscover what the chaos in this world has made you forget – who you really are.
2. Accept who you are in a daily practice
Do something every day to remind yourself that you are unconditionally valuable. For example, give yourself a high-five in the mirror. It may seem silly, but it’s a proven technique that reminds you that you are awesome and releases a flood of feel-good chemicals, giving you more drive, focus, and confidence. Check out this 1-minute video of creator Mel Robbins explaining how to do it and the benefits.
“There is no fast track to transformation. You have to work on it in little ways every day. You can’t buy self-esteem or self-love. You have to build it. It takes sweat equity. You have to stand face to face with that part of you that you hate, forgive yourself for the hurt you’ve caused (especially to yourself), and do the work to become a better you. It’s the only way to create the self-Respect and build the self-esteem that you desire.”
~ Mel Robbins, The High 5 Habit
3. Live who you really are
You know those things that you rediscovered about yourself that excite you? Go do them. Go play. Carve out time to do what you love. Life isn’t all about work, to-do lists, taxi-ing kids around, and figuring out what you’ll make for dinner. But those are the tasks that consume most of our living hours.
Make time to do something “purposeless and all-consuming,” the definition of play from Dr. Stuart Brown’s book, Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul . He unfolds the data on why play “just might be the most important work we can ever do.” When I first encountered Dr. Brown’s work, I scoffed and thought, “I don’t have time for play.” Until I kept reading and discovered that the reality is, I’m not living a full and healthy life if I don’t play. If your first instinct is to dismiss it like I did, hear Dr. Brown describe how play unlocks your purpose and talents in this 1-minute video .
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